Is it acceptable for a high school football coach to use profanity in front of and/or towards his players?
On a personal level, I have never played for and/or coached with a coach who used profanity in front of his teams. But I do know and understand that in many programs it is commonplace.
In my opinion, a man has a very small vocabulary and lacks the ability to properly motivate if he cannot do so without dropping F bombs. Dropping F bombs in front of HS kids is easy, lazy, immature, and irresponsible in my opinion.
Using profanity on the field can draw a 15 yard personal foul penalty. How can we as coaches expect the kids to use discipline with their tongues, if we can't do the same with ours?
My son will soon be playing football. If he plays for a yeller/curser, I will not be one of those parents who goes and complains to the staff or administration. I will explain to my son that he will encounter all sorts of types of coaches/bosses in his life, and he needs to learn to adapt and respect each style. Even if I don't agree with it. But I have to admit, I will lose an ounce of respect for a coach who thinks its appropriate to to be vulgar and curse around my kid.
It might be too easy to say but, what comes out of one's mouth is a choice. The arena in which football is conducted is an aggressive and violent one. Not that that is an excuse, but such an atmosphere can lend itself to the use of more colorful language some might claim. And lets all be honest, most everyone has let a "shoot", "darn" or "heck" loose once or twice in their lives ... With that being stated, personally I don't feel the use of expletives should be something that is used with student-athletes while under the guise of HS athletics. Will it / has it slipped out a few times, sure. But as a 'rule' ... no. The caveat to this however is the locker-room at half time. Perhaps it seems hypocritical, but once that locker door has shut for half-time, an occasional term that is normally frowned upon may be heard. But NEVER directed at anyone. In my opinion, a coach should feel himself a 'pillar' of the community and carry himself as such (as best as possible) ... but he or she is still human. Finally, while it is a tangent topic, some of the language from PARENTS in the stands is ridiculous. In addition, much of the language in this area that I have heard is DIRECTED at someone (hmmm, maybe a coach?). This is just as critical of an issue ... not everyone is going to agree with a coach's decision. But thats the way it is .... so how about an amicable relation ... the HC wont cuss at your child and you dont cuss at the HC while his wife and family are sitting behind you ...
I don't think it is good or necessary, but I've seen coaches win both ways. That is why I don't think it is necessary as some coaches have proven it. For the most part, the behavior and expectations of the Head Coach are directly reflected in the behavior of his kids and team. Had a coach last playoff season that was good until down 28-0, at which point his kids and fans followed his example into terrible behavior. As well, being in close proximity and working with coaches over the years, it is only a handful of them that I have seen who have behaved in a manner I would not want my kid around them.
As for parents or fans hurling insults or questioning or even offering advice to a coach from the stands, I generally have a different take. While I don't agree with that type of behavior if it is mean spirited, I tend to think the other stuff is all part of it. It comes with the territory, coaches should expect it, and only react if it becomes a problem. As a former coach there were times when great information or advice came from parents or fans. As an official I get called bad things and yelled at every single game. I think more than anything that developing a larger perspective, and learning to only react to the most serious of problems, makes it better for all involved, coach, fans, parents and kids.